‘O’wn your stuff

A few years ago, when I had just experienced something of particular difficulty, but had not really fully made it through processing all of the feelings and knowledge (both lost and gained), a friend told me, “you have to own your stuff.” I didn’t immediately get what he was saying. I thought I was taking full blame for my part in the problem. He said I was. That wasn’t his point. His point was that it no...

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‘N’orval
Apr17

‘N’orval

My dad, on the right, and me right next to him with the bigshit-eating grin. Those are my grandparents (dad’s parents)and my sisters and brother. My mom is behind the camera. Well, a tribute to my mom just wouldn’t be complete without a follow up tribute to my dad. His name is Norval and he was named after his father, Orval. (When I told someone this once, she said, “So, he was the ‘new’ Orval?” It...

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‘I’nspiration
Apr11

‘I’nspiration

Cindy made a comment on my last blog post about “inspiration.” So, I’ve decided to use that as inspiration for this “I” post. (Lazy, I know. Sue me. I’m a busy woman.) Inspiration seems like a word that couldn’t possibly go wrong. I mean, who doesn’t want to be inspired? But I have had plenty of times when the very thought makes me feel a little sick to my stomach. Inspiration brings...

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‘E’mpathy and why getting it sucks

Blogger’s Note: I’m participating in the Blogging from A to Z Challenge for April 2012, where you blog your way through the alphabet during the month of April. After suffering some writer’s block on D, I got super busy on my E and F days. So, I’m totally cheating and back-dating this post. I was going to write about entropy today. My daughter asked me a few days ago what it meant. As I stumbled around trying to...

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‘D’esiderata
Apr04

‘D’esiderata

Mötley Crüe has nothing to do with this blog post.I just started writing about the ’80s and got nostalgic. Blogger’s Note: I’m participating in the Blogging from A to Z Challenge for April 2012, where you blog your way through the alphabet during the month of April. After suffering some writer’s block on D, I got super busy on my E and F days. So, I’m totally cheating and back-dating this post. Eight...

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Living in the moment makes for a messy house
Jul27

Living in the moment makes for a messy house

In my post-cancer, post-marriage world, “living in the moment” became a necessity. I had long strived to do this. I was often criticized for being uptight and constantly stressed. I spent a lot of time in therapy and in the self-help world trying to address this aspect of my personality. Then, I got cancer. Funny, but the one thing I seemed to dwell on after diagnosis wasn’t the present, but the future. I wanted one....

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