Kindness
Apr12

Kindness

When someone has done something terribly wrong to me, I do not feel like being kind. I will be angry or self-destructive instead. But eventually, you have to reach for kindness. Certain religions, philosophies or therapies say you need to forgive the person who caused you pain, so you can let go. I say to heck with that. Sometimes the person doesn’t deserve forgiveness or isn’t around to deal with the aftermath. (Of...

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I wish I’d known Harry
Mar16

I wish I’d known Harry

My very first real job – after my high school career of tying tomatoes on a farm and making wreaths for a pittance for the farmer’s daughter’s not-so-thriving interior decorating business – was as an obituary writer for the local paper. It was a dream job for a journalism major who had only one college-level journalism class under her belt! The entry-level job was a way to learn AP Style and get acquainted with...

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Good, scary stuff
Feb23

Good, scary stuff

Aphrodite startled, also known as Lely’s Venus.Photo by Fr. Lawrence Lew, O.P. Used undera Creative Commons license. I’m going to delve into something here that is really hard for me to share. In fact, as I write this opening paragraph, I’m not sure if this post will ever see the light of the internet. I’m writing it, though, for a few reasons. First, I am going to write daily. It’s an important intention...

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‘W’onder
Apr26

‘W’onder

 My beaYOOOOtiful daughter and the magical cake. (I’m backdating posts again. This actually happened after the date on this post, but, ‘w’hatever. My daughter had her 11th birthday party last weekend. It was hosted at her dad’s house and was a LARP — live action role-playing. It was totally fun! The kids had a blast — no doubt because they got to beat on adults with padded sticks. My job was to make the cake....

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‘V’ulnerability
Apr25

‘V’ulnerability

“Vulnerability is kind of the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears it is also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.” — Brené Brown A few years ago, when I was starting a process of rebuilding my life, I started having the oddest encounters with people. I should tell you that I was not merely rebuilding my life, I was trying to figure out what my life was. I was lost,...

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‘T’ale of two Teds

A couple of years ago, thanks to an old-fashioned technology once referred to as “e-mail,” I discovered the TED talks. If you don’t know what these are, let me share with you their tag line: “Ideas worth spreading.” I think that’s it in an nutshell. TED is a series of talks on a wide variety of subjects by people who are experts — at least experts about the one thing for which they were asked to...

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